So here’s a thing about people, be it your family, friends or colleagues. Every single one of them have a suggestion for you, things you need to change.
Say for example, you don’t like hurting people by saying no to their request. And you end up doing things you don’t like, going to places you don’t wanna go.
Now, your close and concerned friend will tell, dude grow up… learn to say no. Do what you like.
It takes some time but you starts to get it, and starts practicing it.
Now, the same friend comes to you asking for a something you totally detest but used to agree to do before. Now when you deny (After this person’s suggestion) you are changed. You are not the same friends as you used to be.
Don’t get me started on the relatives now ….
So effectively the conclusion is … You can’t escape it. You were born doomed ….